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生命中总有许多的匆匆和擦身而过,世间总有那么多的遗憾.今天,他们的故事让我明白,有些事情并不在于时间,在于它来的时候你是否紧紧地捉住了它...
A Late Love That Burns Brightly
Jo Ann and Bob Chew have been married for nearly 12 years. In December 2004, Jo Ann was diagnosed with dementia. Then, one year later, she was told she was in the early stages of Alzheimer's disease. As a result, Jo Ann says, "my doctor told me he did not want me to cook, and that was music to my ears".
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Time again for Story Corps. This traveling oral history project records Americans talking to each other’s about their lives. Today the story of Jo Ann and Bob Chew. They married late in life both for the second time. He is 70 years old, she is 82. And now has early stage Alzheimer’s. They spent the illness their relationship indoors. Here Jo Ann recalls when she first knew she wanted to be a wife.
My father said if he sends me to college then, I could choose one of two things. He said, you can choose human, because I know you will be somebody’s wife if you took you are not to be somebody’s wife. Or No. 2 I can take up a secretary of course, because you know, that time there were a lot of things that women did. So I decided the whole matters weeks ago. I wanted to be somebody’s wife.
Are you still cooking today?
Not today, I have been up to this point, but I have Alzheimer’s beginning of an end. So I hear, and my doctor told me he did not love me to cook. And that was music to my ears.
Wow, who’s do well the cooking?
This fellow across for me, he still loved me quite a professional.
So, how did we meet?
Somehow, we got together. I don’t even remember how was. I’m trying to think. I hope you remember.
Yeah, I remember. I’m shocked that you don’t remember.
Oh, I do. I just…..
You remember the Christmas parties?
Oh, yeah. And that was we really got to know one another, wasn’t it? My heart began to beat a little faster after quite a few nonsense. I think you did, too. Then, we decided that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. We got married.
Are you just thought about remarrying?
No, no, …..
Why not?
I just though I was too old.
Well, how old were you?
Oh, I got to think, how was I, how was I, (70) 70. Then, I kept trying to dissuade you form marrying me. Because I was older than you. And I knew that there would come a time when I would be a little old lady and you will still have all the marks of a 10-year younger man. So, here we are, still together. And I still 10 years older.
This still bother you today?
No, it bothers me that I’m as I am, cause I don’t wanna be a burden.
You think you are a burden?
Not really, cause you need someone to take care of, don’t you?
That’s why I tell you.
I know.
The diagnosis?
It’s not pretty, no.
Do you feel sorry for yourself today?
A little bit, a little bit, a big bit.
A big bit?
Upset.
What’s, what are the things that are making you sad?
Just not having controlled everything, my thoughts and my actions and, I don’t think it’s fair to you, either.
You know I want to take care, you know it?
I don know that, that you can have some cute little chick that you could be running around with 10 years younger.
I know, I have my presses right now.
Do I get protected me whole year wonderful.
How would you say the diagnosis of your Alzheimer's has affected us and our life?
Outside of all the feelings I have stored up. We still do things we did before. And we still can go to dances. And we can do things. But I don’t wanna be an ugly lady this nod her head.
You will never be an ugly lady, sweet.
I just somehow didn’t think that this was goona be my way out. And I still hope that it’s not goona be.
You know I still love you, right, more than ever?
I know.
Jo Ann Chew and her husband Bob in Little Rock Arkansas. Their conversation and all Story Corps recordings are archived at the Library of Congress. Learn how you can record an interview at NPR. Org. |
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